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Frequently Asked Questions

You mentioned most of your workshops are free! What's the catch?
It's true! Most of our workshops are free. We believe that education should be a right rather than a privilege and we do not want socioeconomic status to be a barrier to the information we provide. We sometimes present at conferences that require a registration fee for participants, but the majority of these conferences have fee waivers available for low-income participants. We offer workshops and seminars at colleges, universities, high schools, hospitals, community centers, and many other venues and while we have a suggested honorarium, we do not require compensation for our time or services. For those organizations that are able to provide an honorarium, they help to ensure that we can take part in a session for an organization that cannot afford to provide compensation. We operate on a non-profit model, so depending on the date and location, we may have to request some form of travel assistance or reimbursement.

I don't agree with some of the information on this site. What's up with that?
That's okay, we don't expect everyone to agree with everything we have to say. Some people don't feel comfortable with the word queer. Some people don't feel comfortable talking about safer-sex. Queer communities are incredibly varied, and while we try to provide a safe, positive space for everyone it is difficult to appease every single person. We do our best to be inclusive and we respect the identities and opinions of everyone who visits our site or attends our workshops. If you would like to discuss any of the content of our website or workshops with us, feel free to contact us.

Where are you presenting next?
Check out our list of upcoming workshops.

Where have you presented before?
We have presented at Hanover High School, Washington State University, Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center, Dartmouth College, the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference, the University of Vermont, Lincoln High School, Cardigan Mountain School, Gender Odyssey, New England College, Transgender Lives, Butch Voices, First Event, and Vermont Law School to name a few. Check out our list of past presentations.

I've heard you give away free stuff. Is that true?
Yes, yes, yes! We typically have a drawing for a safer-sex supply kit at the end of our sex education workshops. Depending upon supplies and funds, we also try to have some safer-sex supplies available to our audience whenever possible.

I saw the word "queer" on this site. Why do you use it?
We use this word for several reasons. 1) The reclamation of language has a long history and can provide empowerment to people and communities that have had to hear those words used as slurs and pejoratives. We believe that "queer" has been used in a derogatory manner for far too long, and have joined the ever-growing group of queers who see queerness as a source of pride and empowerment. 2) We feel that the word "queer" is more encompassing than a long string of acronyms such as LGBTTQQTSIAAPF. (Plus it's easier to say!) When you start a string of acronyms it's easy to accidentally exclude certain identities by omission, and we want to be as inclusive as possible.

What does "queer" mean?
Queer simply means odd or strange. Historically, it has been used both positively and negatively to describe gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender/transexual, etc. individuals. It can be used as a slur, or it can be used in an identity-affirming way - it all depends on context. Some people see queer as a negative word or are uncomfortable using this word, but we think why would we want to be normal?

I'm an ally, can I use the word "queer"?
Great question! While some people are comfortable identifying as queer, others may feel uncomfortable with this word. It's important to understand that you should be careful in how you say this word, as some people still use it as a pejorative. You should always ask people what words they use to describe themselves, their identities and their expressions. In general, it is acceptable for allies to say "queer communities" and to use queer as an adjective. Queer is usually not prefaced with an article. Examples:
Correct: My friend Bill is queer.
Wrong: Bill is a queer.
Correct: I support queer communities.
Wrong: Stupid queer!

Queer is rarely seen in the plural form. Exceptions? Of course! In our former name, we used "Those Queers" in a positive, ironic, and hopefully charming way. As in:
Alex: Hey, remember those queers from the conference we went to?
Shantelle: Of course! They were delightful!

Still have questions?
Excellent! Ask us your questions and maybe you can win a spot on this list, too!